Ok, so here's the thing... My idiot ex decided (without actually discussing the matter with me) to get my 10yr old son a cell phone for Christmas. He told me he was doing this, but never once asked my opinion. I kinda get his reasons behind it... sorta kinda.... but the fact of the matter is I don't believe a 10yr old child has any need for a cell phone. I didn't like the idea from the start, but I went along with it to humor his dad. Now that I've made my feelings on the cell phone situation clear I'm suddenly an awful mother who's using the phone to hurt my ex??? Wow! My own son didn't seem to care when I told him the rules, but his father sure threw a huge fit! Not like I'm cutting all communication off. I made it clear to my son that if he wants to contact his dad I'd turn the phone on for him to do so.... And surprise surprise my son never once asked!
Part of the reason I made the final decision to limit the cell phone usage was I feel my ex is taking advantage of the whole thing. He calls or texts every other day. That alone isn't a huge deal, but when he's talking to our son he asks him all sorts of questions like he's wants to know every detail of our home life. Now, I've got nothing to hide, but his dad twists things to make even the simplest thing seem horrible. Here at our house all the kids have chores that are appropriate for their age. My 10yr old son does his room, a litter box, the kids bathroom, and sometimes I'll have him pick up and sweep the game room. Really it's not much. His dad's all like, "how many chores do you have to do? Do you do that before or after homework?" that sorta thing. And his dad will tell him things like, "you need to text these people before you finish your chores..." or "tell your step-dad he has to practice guitar with you every night". He questions when we eat dinner, what we eat, if our son brushed his teeth yet... All sorts of shit! I hardly ever call up to talk to our son when he's with his dad (usually if it's a holiday) and I don't pry. I ask if he's having fun and what not, but I don't ask any details. I know his dad takes good care of him..... as do I.... so there's no need to know any specifics. I make it clear to our son that he follows his dads rules at his dad's house and our rules here at home.
His dad complains that he doesn't like to call my phone cause I'm often not around our son.... What? I work and run errands for this household, other than that I'm usually always here taking care of the kids and the house. Hubs and I rarely get a night out without the kids.... I honestly don't know what the fuck he's talking about???
I swear the man tries to make it seem like I'm an awful parent. He told my hubs recently that last year we didn't make our son do homework all the time.... Hold the fuck up! First off I know exactly what he's referring to and that was the year before last. That year our son would have to do homework from pretty much the second he got home till it was nearly bed time with only a break for dinner.... the crazy ass teacher didn't bother to notice that one of the reasons my son was struggling so much was that he had dyslexia. I took the steps to have him diagnosed with it last year. And he says we aren't having him do all the reading he's supposed to this year and because we don't have him read more pages that's why he got a low grade recently. Wrong! There is not a set amount of pages to read, she doesn't grade on pages. He has to read for 15mins and we sign off. We do this every night, but for some reason my son doesn't always turn the paper in. And about the amount of pages he reads.... Well if the idiot ex would have our son read real books that don't have nearly the entire page filled with pictures, and instead a book filled only with words then he wouldn't go through 3x as many pages with his dad than he does with us.... Idiot ex literally told hubs that I need to work better with him, that it's MY fault.... Oh and supposedly we don't make our son brush his teeth either... Yea, even though the child has never once had a freakin cavity!
I seriously can't even be near the asshat cause he's pissing me off sooooo damn much lately! No, I don't care what the fuck the maggot thinks, but yea it irritates me just the same... Trying to tell me I'm a horrible mom and I'm hurting my son because I don't agree with him having a cell phone?! Grow the fuck up! You do you, I do me.... Regardless of what he presumes, I know I'm a great mother.... And I've got 4 happy, healthy, beautiful children to prove it! And yea this blog sorta rambled on and on... oh well! Guess that's my vent for the week.... Ta ta!
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