The EX Factor

It should come as no surprise I utterly dislike my ex... Always have, even when we were together. But he's managed to make my distaste for him stronger over the years. See, I have a huge freakin problem with lying... Like what the fuck is the point? Do you not think your lies will someday catch up to you, because if so you are sorely mistaken my friend! I'm not talking little white lies here... No my wonderful ex can tell some massive whoppers! 


Ok, so Monday I got the joy of going to court with this looser. We were going to modify child support, which is handled through the AG office. The dumb ass wants it lowered, that I have no issue with, but he thought not paying for all this time wasn't going to come up... That's where he'd be wrong! They brought up probation and suddenly the man became a retard! "I don't understand... " That was his slogan for the day. The lady handling our case was increasingly more and more irate with him, as was I. In the end all we accomplished is yet another court date, where he will have his lawyer present. Now the AG office said he could have a court appointed lawyer, but this guy who claims to be broke instead went out and spent thousands on a lawyer. 


I'm no idiot, I've been keeping documentation and records of anything and everything. Yes, maybe I'm a stalker, but I knew this day would come (it has before). He's now planning to take me to court to try and get custody of our son. Keep in mind he doesn't work and claims to be broke, but he has the money to spend on a lawyer and care for a child???? Does he truly believe the judge will buy into his crap? I know exactly what he's thinking, he's like a damn open book. According to our paperwork we're supposed to meet at a specific location for drop off and pick up. Well, we haven't met there in years... seriously years! But after Monday he's suddenly decided we have to meet there again... Yea I don't think so! That meeting spot was picked years ago, and was chosen because it was a neutral spot midway between the two of us. But now it's a 5min drive for him and a 50min drive for us. Oh, and even though he hasn't gotten his son on Wednesdays in years also, he all of a sudden wants to start that again.... And again that's a 50min drive for us. He actually expects us to drive 50mins so he can spend 2hrs with his son, then we have to drive 50mins back home. He's obviously just doing this to be an ass. He doesn't want to pay child support at all (and he hasn't been), and I wouldn't agree to lower it as much as he wants (because he was lying through his teeth in court), and I'm guessing by getting custody he thinks it'll get him out of probation? Really? And like I said before, is he that dense he doesn't think the judge will see through him? 


Well, I'm ok with the fact he's taking me to court. I'm actually glad. It's about time we had some shit changed and in writing.... Since his verbal word isn't good. He can hold me in contempt for not bowing down to him and not changing what we've verbally agreed upon. Hope he likes being held in contempt in return! I know I'll enjoy doing so! Years of not following the court order, and he thinks he's going to get custody? Why on earth would the judge give custody to a man who has been in and out of relationships, can't hold a job, currently unemployed, and claims to have a brain injury? Especially when said child is and has been in the care of his mother and stepfather for years, in a stable home environment, living with his siblings, is in a great school district, and has lived in this specific home (which we bought, so we have no plans to move) and town for over 2yrs.... Hmm, not like I'm beating the kid, in fact I'm a good mother. It baffles me that he's so delusional to think they'd take a kid out of a stable home to live with a self proclaimed party animal and rocker. But then again he is a liar, good thing I've got the proof. 


I really can't wait to see the look on his face when I reveal all the evidence I have against him! Let him waste thousands and thousands on a lawyer while continuing to not pay child support! I'm not some passive woman he can scare or walk all over, and he'll soon realize that fact. I'm sick and tired of his macho attitude, thinking he can do as he pleases with no repercussions. Yet the second I don't do as he wishes I'm a horrible mother and he's taking me to court. You sir are a tool and the judge will see that. Hell, the lady we spoke with Monday called me (alone, without him) back in the office to ask "Is he for real?"... See, actual adult mature people can see through the bs you spew! You won't get out of probation, or paying back child support, or paying child support altogether, and you most certainly will not get custody you midget douche bag! 


That people is the current ex factor I'm dealing with. Had to vent! It won't cure him of his stupidity, but fingers crossed our day in court will bring him somewhat back down to reality. Most likely we'll be back in court yet again in a couple more years... Oh joy! Well, I'm no "debby downer", so I'll end on a positive note... Though he may be a complete moron, he spends time with and loves his son dearly. Just hope one day he'll stop viewing me as the enemy. I'm the kids mom, I only do what's best for all my children. We had a kid together, now you have your life and I have mine, can we try for his sake to get along even a smidgen?